Some of us dream of becoming parents and have a very rosy picture in our mind. We expect our child to be sweet, happy and well behaved. The thing we forget is each individual is different and so is each baby. What you imagined is not necessarily what you will get. It’s a very novel experience being a parent. Irrespective of whether it’s your first baby or you are becoming a parent for the second time, each experience is unique. It is always better to get the best parenting advice from either a doctor or even your family members. It is imperative that you do not take the advice very rigidly as each child is different.

Every mother remembers the first time she held her little bundle of joy in her arms. It is such an over whelming experience , that many mothers get very worried as to how they will be able to give the best to this helpless soul. Babies are used to their mother’s voice even in the womb. You will be surprised at how a little one will respond to his mommy’s voice even when she is talking to somebody else. Baby becomes very alert and experiences a feeling of security from hearing his mommy’s voice.

When they are just about a month old all they can do is to cry and let people know that they need something. This is their way of communicating. A mother should talk softly to her baby and reassure. Whether its diaper change or feeding time the mother must tell the little one what she is doing. Your baby will feel secure just listening to your voice and as months slip by will actually associate certain sounds with certain actions you do. This will let your baby know that whatever he or she wants is on its way, and he will get it soon!

Your baby begins to understand language way before he or she starts using it as a tool of communication. By the time your baby is about four to five months old you can give him soft rubber toys to play with. He may just look at that toy and make cooing sounds. It’s his way of trying to comprehend what the toy is.

Babies many a time cry a lot even though they have been fed and changed, this is an excellent time to introduce music into their lives. Music has a calming effect on their nerves, and soon baby feels relaxed and stops crying. You will find that music also sooths your nerves. Being a mother is not easy. You need to adjust to your baby’s biological clock.

Keeping awake at night is one common complaint many mothers have. Some people think you should keep your baby in a crib in a separate room. This means every time he cries you need to walk to his room and either change or feed him. It makes more sense to shift his crib to your room. It will save you a lot of energy and time. Your waking hours will reduce and your sleeping periods will increase as you will not be wasting time shuffling from one room to the other.

Place a mobile in the baby’s crib, there will come a time when even if he does wake at night he may spend some time looking and cooing at the mobile. His eye hand coordination will start developing a he might try to reach out to the mobile. If your baby wakes at night give him some time to go back to bed without your assistance. Some babies may fall back to sleep on their own. You as a parent need to develop your infant’s motor skills, language skills etc.

Your child should learn social behavior. It is very important for children to learn to share and cooperate with other children. You need to combine advice with common sense and patience in order to understand the best way to communicate with your baby.  Build good communication skills like repeating what you want him to understand or do; point to objects and name them. What you are doing is associating a word with an object. Teach your baby to be obedient by reinforcing and rewarding accepted ways of behavior.

Do not make comparisons with the growth cycle of other children, your child is unique and will grow and learn in his own special way and at his own pace. Whatever best parenting advice you read or get from people should be used as a guideline for your baby. Do not go by the book, all babies do not start walking or talking at a particular age. Understand your child and most importantly enjoy being a parent.