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Everyone has an ex. Everyone has had that one that as so hard to get away from…

well, my ex and I are apart and we are trying to move on our separate ways from a long drawn out, going nowhere relationship.
At one point he moved out and we called ourselves being “broken up”… Now its three break ups, 100 arguments and 10 months later and we are “officially apart”
It has been 3 months since we’ve spoken, seen one another or had sex.
Now I’m at his friends house for a “shimmy-dig” and he happens to be there. It’s a mutual friend so I can come, he usually doesn’t show anyway.
this time he is there, looking, smelling, sounding good, and I’m sure tasting and feeling good too. He spoke, I turned my lip! After our first exchange of words I loosened up a little. After my third drink I loosened up a lot. We chatted, then he flirted: I flirted back, he touched: I let him, he kissed: I quivered, he invited:….. I accepted.
A hour and a half into the night we were having our own party. And it was as good as it ever was. You see, this is the man who enchanted my heart at one point in time. The man who I had planned to spend the rest of my life with, the man I lived with, cried with, laughed with. This is the man who planted his never to be born seed into me. So it’s ok….right? It’s ok for me to do this…AGAIN…right? I can have these feelings, I’m allowed to…right?
~Truth is these are the reasons that I shouldn’t have done it. We made love, that wasn’t just some “sexual encounter”. Now his spirit and his presence has been re-inserted into my body, my mind and most of all my heart. I thought I had taken a step forward.

“I can be intimate with him and not cry or tell him I love him”

So I thought but I didn’t just have sex with him I put myself two months back in this separation and two years back in our random, spontaneous AMAZING sex life.
What the hell was I thinking.

“I finally took one step forward only to take two backwards. Damn…!”

*~`:>~`* For the record. “Don’t do it.” If you taking this action is your way to prove to yourself that you have moved on then you really aren’t ready. Your foot hasn’t even planted yet and you ready to jump…
like they say you’ve got to crawl before you walk.

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