Teenage sons…
So as mentioned in my profile I have 3 teenage/ young adult children- one of them is a 16 yr old male. Overall he is a pleasant, well adjusted, happy teen, however, right now I am having a problem motivating him. By motivating him I mean getting him moving. Not that he doesn’t do his chores but beyond that he’s ‘lazy’ as my SO says and sometimes I have to agree with him.
The routine lately has been, I ask him to do something and I get “ok, I’ll get to it” and guess what, he doesn’t. Or I tell him to do something while I am gone, sometimes as far as visually pointing out, and when I get home and nada… nothing. And of course, he’s been sitting at home doing nothing for hours. Besides getting mad at him, I also can’t understand sitting and doing nothing for hours. Maybe its just my personality. But I also hate being mad at him, he is a very compassionate child and it does affect him.
My SO suggests taking his electronics away, and I’ve done that, but it’s only a temporary fix. So what do I do to instill long term changes in his behavior? I just don’t know. As a single parent, sometimes I get lax in discipline and following through, and then there is the whole picking your battles thing. On the flip side, this does not carry over to his work; he follows thru there and works hard. So in the end, I guess its still… pick your battles.
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Tags: Parenting, raising boys, raisning positive kids, single parenting, teenage sons
December 15th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
If he works hard, at least you have that. He is a teenage boy and laying around is what they do. I have one, and he has friends, if he works, YES pick your battles! Good luck!